After living with one person for a year and then having visitors for a
month or two, you begin to realize the set ways you have. And how
it’s like you expect them to already know. Truth is, what may seem
like common sense to you, is actually your experiences merely collected
over the year.
You have become a ‘robot’ under your own conditions, extracting what
YOU feel is important and making choices which you feel works best for
you. Since you have had noone their to do otherwise, it is this way
that you become used to and essentially, become good at.
All this is only a bad thing if we are unable to cut some slack on the
newcomer. We don’t need to slather the victim all at once with these
lackings or differences we notice and would like to change. We keep
patience in our pocket and as the days go on we can decide on
something to mention; to point a bothersome crinkle out.
Overtime we may see that these ‘hindrences’ are not really as
bulky a deal as we thought them to be in the first place.
We can actually handle having the spatulas in a different drawer
and it’s not the end of the world if the tea kettle doesn’t have any
water in it when we go to use it.
Slathering anything on them, whether it be all at once or spread over
weeks, may not be as crucial of an occurance as we thought.
Even if it means using less milk for the cereal or being the one to refill
the waterbottles, we do it because we love them.
And we can’t even help but do it.