It is Us.

the grass gets a hair cut and the leaves that change colour and fall off.. is like us getting older and getting greys and thinner hair.
the rain that lands on the tarps and slides down to the bottom, are like children in a waterpark, gurgling up smiles that launch themselves full throttle into the ground floor pool.
the apps that buzz on our phone are the distractions we sometimes relish, taking us into a thoughtless colour coated virtuality and away from whatever needs to be done.
the gang of dogs down the road tempt us into making a dog suit and joining them on their evening adventures. what DO they do.
the clock ticks like a beat to the song of our life and the hum of the fridge coasts along the bass.
but we
we make our melody.
we are the ones deciding, the ones paving our way for us.

A Point in Marriage

There is a point in marriage I think.
Well, there are a lot of points. But this one I’m talking about, it involves the decision of commitment. You take the vow on the day, for certain.
But it comes back numerous times throughout the marriage and you must make that conscious decision of ‘yes, i’m sticking with this’.
Maybe it doesn’t happen with everyone. Maybe some don’t really acknowledge the choice; that there isn’t one because of that first vow. But to me, a sign of love is making the choice continously. Because love is work. Love takes so much effort and it has more substance when it is something you choose to be in, rather than in because of a vow you made 6 years ago.

It can be a good thing to be aware that you can get out. And that you won’t, because of love.
Of course, in instances of abuse and the like- I would argue changes need to be made.
And if not, the commitment should end.

When we realise the power we have, the decisions we make are more valuable.
When we realise we are staying together, whether it is a question or not- we can be proud of that decision.
Let us feel bits of happiness for making a promise to be with someone for the rest of our life-and
keeping it.
The divorce rates are scary high and we know that marriage is work. It will almost be the hardest thing we do.
So let’s give ourselves some credit and acknowledge the fact that love has brought us here and it is love that will carry us through.

Being Better People

I think sometimes we just need to stop.

Everything that we’re doing.Except living.
And use that to figure out how we’re living our life.
Sometimes it takes an arguement, an eye opener.. sometimes it takes death..
for us to really see the things we’re doing wrong in life.
Maybe if we made the conscious decision to check in every once in awhile with self, we wouldn’t need those occurances.

We all lose sight every once and awhile. We all get so hooked up on our routines that we become blinded and unaware of our reactions. We make the same ones even though they are negative and dreary.

I think that living a happy and good life is a choice. And after years of doing the same thing and being around the same stuff, it is difficult to break free of the mold we’ve created for self. So deciding to live a better life is a conscious choice that needs nurturing.

I hope that we can be more aware of our actions and what we say.
I hope that we can become better and nicer people by being positive and being less negative towards people and self.
After awhile, the conscious effort we put into making ourselves better people, will become somebody we are.And that is truly someone we should consider being.